Self Esteem | by EvansOdigie

Self esteem means regarding one self in total appraisal. It means to trust, believe and solemly acknowledge oneself without doubt. Self-esteem is respect and love for oneself.
 When you look upon yourself without disdain, fear, worries or doubt in your decisions, you are said to have Self-esteem.
Many may see Self-esteem as being proud.
I beg to disagree, Self-esteem is different from pride. While pride considers oneself to be better and more important than others, self-esteem does not even compare oneself to another instead, it focuses on building ones attitude to be positive. 
If you don’t love yourself, you can’t love others. 
Pride most times can be negative, but self-esteem is always positive. 
Low self esteem can result from keeping yourself away from people’s company. Some parents who want to protect their children from bad influences may restrict them from mingling with others. 
This is good to a large extent but it becomes too extreme sometimes. Such children usually wants to explore and most times fall in the wrong hands when they get to higher institutions where there is little or no monitoring, “freedom” they call it. This is why there must be check and balances to everything we do.
Other causes includes inability to accept compliments (especially females), inability to forgive yourself and others when you make a mistake, expecting little out of life for yourself, relunctance in facing challenges, feeling indifferent or total distrust about your opinion etc.
How can one build a good self esteem?
Many people (especially young people) feel bad when they make mistakes, for instance failing a class test. It’s a normal thing, but you don’t have to linger in your past. The right thing to do at such instance is to encourage yourself, find out the lapses you may have left during your preparation that may have lead to your failure and correct them.
 A Single failure should not derail you from trying things again. In a nutshell, encourage yourself and never wait for anyone to encourage you.
How to overcome this? 

  • Engage in positive talks and never think negative about yourself. 
  • Share ideas with people and never think your opinion is not relevant.
  •  Never over-react no matter the situation.
  •  Be courteous of others, and try not to be a perfectionist. 
  • Forgive yourself and encourage yourself at all times and never hold grudges against anyone.
  • Finally, engage in things you enjoy doing and strive to do the right things.